Taking long-term relationships to the next level

Self-Improvement

I get bored easily. I am in the constant search for better, faster, stronger in all aspects of my life.

This behavior can be destructive if you allow it for compounding.

It is dangerous to expect the rest of the world to run at your pace. You might lose appreciation for the simple, free things that only nature can provide.

If you apply the wrong amount of force, you could end up pushing people, clients, lovers out of your life.

You can’t hustle trust. You earn trust.

One must maintain enough tension so that when you relax, you do it with blind trust.

It might take decades to get there.

Long-term relationships in a partnership, love, or friendships can’t be pushed.

The best relationships develop on their own, with peaceful effort. You bring it to new heights. Slowly, gently.

Empathy is the name of the game.

When you are capable of accepting the other party for their worse defects, you know you have something enduring.

When you rush long-term relationships, the other side might run out of breath. Worse, you might not appreciate it enough.

In a world of Netflix, Uber, Pornhub, Insta-anything we micro-dose in dopamine. That is making men and women weaker. Society is becoming a polarized joke. Look at politics.

One day at a time.

One investment at a time.

One kiss at a time.

Single-task.

Try to sleep 8 hours.

Focus.

Flow.

Every long-term relationship I have has evolved because of Sunyata.

Sunyata is the Buddhist concept of emptiness. From Wikipedia:

"Emptiness is a mode of perception, a way of looking at experience. It adds nothing to and takes nothing away from the raw data of physical and mental events. You look at events in the mind and the senses with no thought of whether anything is lying behind them. This mode is called emptiness because it's empty of the presuppositions we usually add to the experience to make sense of it: the stories and world-views we fashion to explain who we are and the world we live in. Although these stories and views have their uses, the Buddha found that some of the more abstract questions they raise — of our true identity and the reality of the world outside — pull attention away from a direct experience of how events influence one another in the immediate present. Thus they get in the way when we try to understand and solve the problem of suffering."

For the new to materialize, you must have space.

Remember: maturing long-term trust takes time, empathy, tension, and love.

No pain, no gain.

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