I have been living in the US for almost ten years, 6 of which I lived in San Francisco.
I remember when I came fresh out of Boulder, Colorado, and sought advice from mentors in the city. A particular coffee I had with my friend Shane Steele comes as a fond memory.
She said: in the early days, be default to yes. I blogged about it at the time. That strategy turned out to be valuable in the early days.
Thank you, Shane.
I ended up meeting a lot of people, and that generated a positive flow of opportunity.
Default to yes is no longer valid when you start being successful.
Then, you must focus on and be selective.
I like the "No or Hell Yes" framework, popularized by Tim Ferris.
Every day, I get at least 20 people wanting a favor, "15-minutes", a coffee to pick my brain.
If you let other people take your time away, you will die a busy, unhappy person.
Command respect for your time — Double-Opt in people.
Once you start being successful, it is either “Hell Yes or No.”
Start saying No more often and you will live in peace.
Essentialism is a beautiful book on this topic.
That said, always take risks, leave room for the unexpected, and don't try to over-plan your life. Sometimes, randomness is good.
If you are busy, you are not in control of your life.
It is as simple as that.
Growing up, personally or as a corporation, is extremely painful. In change management, about 35% of the people will churn out. No pain, no gain.
For all the crazy ones out there building their own empires as founders: keep pushing through the pain. Win against the enemy. You are destined for greatness.
The compounding power of putting in an extra 6-10 hours a week for the last decade helped me tremendously on the quest towards Munger/Naval freedom.
