Getting More: A fantastic book for every entrepreneur


I'm reading a really interesting book called "Getting More: How to Negotiate to Achieve Your Goals in the Real World", by a Wharton professor named Stuart Diamond.

Stuart talks about how to achieve more and achieve better "positions in life". From a free coffee to a multi-billion dollar deal to a simple discount on a T-shirt. Let's be honest, we all want more.

I have been working with business development for almost 2,5 years and a good part of my day is related to negotiating something. Whether with Sendgrid engineers, partners in the initiatives I participate in, or deals I'm working on.

I did not go to Stanford, MIT, or some renowned MBA. Sometimes I felt highly intimidated by some calls because of that. Until a time came when I had to make decisions and force some things into a deal. I achieved success in negotiation and today this is Sendgrid's 3rd largest customer conversion channel. Knowing how to negotiate is really very important.

The following are 12 fundamental steps highlighted in the book.

1. Always focus on your goal first

This is quite simple, but in practice, it can be more complicated than it looks. There is no use being nervous about the telemarketing attendant or the person on the other side of the counter. It will only harm you. Any attitude must explicitly bring you closer to your ultimate goal. Many times we take too long to state our real objective during a negotiation, in some cases, this can serve as an interesting tactic, but in most cases, it is not the case. It pays to be honest straight from the start.

2. Others matter more than you

Always think of others. What position are they in right now? What kind of people do they usually trust? What kind of commitments do they usually get? So, put yourself in their shoes. "To be most effective, you must put people in a position where they really want to do something."

3. Make emotional payments

According to Diamond, people are irrational. Anyone motivated by a purely emotional state will not listen to your arguments, let alone be persuaded. Value the people you negotiate with or you may end up negotiating things emotionally. Try to have the rationale as the focus of the discussion.

4. All situations are different

It is more important to listen than to speak at the beginning of the negotiations. Thus, you will acquire more context about who you are negotiating with and what you are negotiating with.

5. Improving is better than losing

Many people start negotiations by asking too much at the beginning or by making demands that have no context or support. If there are many differences between the parties, it is important to move slowly rather than getting burned.

6. Make uneven exchanges

It is very important to understand what the other party cares about. Inside and outside the scope of negotiations, emotionally or rationally. Understand this and make exchanges that are valid for the other party, but are irrelevant to you.

7. Find their patterns

What are the terms, conditions, and rules that come with the negotiation itself before it even starts? This is actually very effective when you need to do multiple leverages.

8. Be transparent and constructive. Do not manipulate.

Be yourself. In the long run, any mask put on or information not provided will appear and everyone will lose out on it. "Being true is great for your credibility, which by far is your greatest asset."

9. Always be communicative. Speak the obvious and share the vision

Most negotiations fail due to sheer lack of communication. It is more effective to tell the truth and seek a joint solution than to do the opposite.

10. Find the real problem and turn it into an opportunity

To understand exactly what may be limiting you in a negotiation, you need to understand what exactly is preventing you from reaching your goal. Problems are opportunities.

11. Embrace the differences

Most people think that differences are risky and even feel uncomfortable with them. You can learn a lot from differences. Use them to your advantage and ask more questions, instead of just accepting everything as it is.

12. Get ready, make a list and practice with it

Before entering into a negotiation, having a list of possibilities and what to respond to these scenarios is very positive and can make a huge difference to the final results. On the Getting More book website, you can find a basic list to get started, but ideally, everyone should build their own "negotiation list".

Whether you are an entrepreneur, employee or a homemaker mom, there is always something to negotiate and possibilities to get more and better.

Other blog posts

Several thinkers deeply influenced me as a professional investor and man. One of them is Charlie Munger. Charlie’s Almanack is a must-read for everyone.

Read more
Listen to Rafael Sanches (Anycart) on Inevitable Podcast

On Monday we published the first episode of the Inevitable Podcast. Our first guest is Rafael Sanches. I've known him for about 7 years.

Read more
Onwards to progress

If things are difficult, do not give up. Persevere. Continue to pursue the path of love and execution of work. You are closer than you think.

Read more

Receive new essays as soon as they're published

You won't receive spam and you can unsubscribe at any time